An Important Announcement from Spencer and Lara

Hi everyone. Spencer, here.

It’s taken me over a month to do this. I’ve put it off because I didn’t want to do it. But as someone who has consumed our content in one form or another, you deserve an update.

Lara and I have decided together to put an indefinite hold on Married with Board Games content. No more reviews, blogs, or podcasts for the foreseeable future. I don’t want to get into all of the reasoning, but I will tell you it was a very very difficult conclusion to arrive at.

In January I started a new job in Dallas. It’s a job where I can make videos, write, and do all sorts of creating. It keeps me busy, but in a good way. I get to use all of my gifts that I enjoy at my job, which I know I am very blessed to have this opportunity.

At my previous job, I was a number. I had no importance. I had no function, other than to submit things other people were perfectly capable of doing themselves. I had lots of free time to write, edit, and manage our social media accounts at that job, leaving plenty of time at home to spend with Lara and the girls.

I don’t have that time anymore. It’s not a complaint, just a fact. And with no free time during the day, it really left only a few hours in the evenings to spend with my family. I had a choice to make: let our content cut into quality time with family, or let go of the content.

In black and white, the obvious choice is to let go of the content. And really, it didn’t take me or Lara very long to make the decision. That didn’t make it any less difficult to let go.

Married with Board Games filled a very important role in my life at a time when I really needed it. First of all, it was an absolute joy getting to work with Lara on it all. I’ll continue to believe she is the only reason this thing gained any traction. She’s engaging, funny, well-spoken, knowledgable, opinionated, and the fact that she’s drop-dead gorgeous helps a little bit too. Without her, this wouldn’t have gone anywhere and I also believe our relationship grew as a result of working together on this.

Secondly, at my prior job, I felt like I had no purpose. No role to fill. Sure, I love my family and I know that to them I was Dad and Husband. I will never grow tired filling that role. But people need things outside of family where they feel like what they say and do matter. For me, that was our content.

From the creative process to the interactions with viewers and listeners, I truly felt like I had a voice and that I mattered to those outside of my family. It was something I hadn’t felt in a very long time.

Now at my current job, I know what I do every day matters. I can see firsthand the effect it has and I am truly grateful for the opportunities I have each day.

As we sat down to record our podcast update, I got this overwhelming feeling of sadness. I felt silly. Why am I upset? We made videos and talked about board games for two years. What’s the big deal?

The big deal is you. You were the reason I felt heard. You were the reason I felt like what I did mattered. It’s because of you that I felt like I had a purpose at a time when I really needed to feel that way. And while we’re still here, playing games and keeping up with everything that happens in the community as best we can, it still feels like saying goodbye to a very close friend.

If you’ve ever interacted with us on social media, thank you. If you’ve watched one of our videos, thank you. And if you’ve listened to our podcast even once, you made a difference. I consider each of you a very close friend.

Please forgive us for our silence over the past month or so. It’s been difficult knowing what to say. I’m still not sure how exactly to respond. So if it takes us a little bit longer to make our way back to our social media channels, please be patient. You matter to us, and we want to chat. We just need a little bit more time to adjust.

We aren’t closing the door forever. Maybe once we figure out how to navigate our new lives in the big city and with girls that won’t stop growing, we can make a return. Stay subscribed to our podcast and our social media channels, just in case. However, there is no timetable and it is not a certainty.

I’ll leave you with this: You matter and you have a purpose. If you’re in a situation where you don’t feel that’s true, don’t accept your circumstances. You can find the right method for you to feel like what you do matters. Find the people who appreciate you, your talents, and your contributions. But most importantly, don’t neglect your family. It is my sincerest hope and prayer that they are the people who appreciate you most.

I thank God that I can say with 100% certainty, that is the case for me.

4 thoughts on “An Important Announcement from Spencer and Lara

  1. L Paladin

    You have been a joy and blessing to so many of us. Thank you for your comments, reviews and the fun of your podcasts. You will be missed, but your decision seems like a very wise one. may God go with you.

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  2. Dean

    As a viewer/listener, I’m sad but I totally get it. It’s all about phases isn’t it? With family, kids, work, etc – we have to let phases play out and roll with them however we can. We can’t be absolute all of the time, and some things have to give in order to prioritise the most important stuff.

    Thanks for all you’ve both given. Really enjoyed the stuff you brought, and the way you brought it. Whatever you both do, keep bringing that positivity and warmth.

    Cheers
    Dean

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  3. Al

    Dear Spencer and Lara,
    Thank you so much for all you did with marriedwithbdg. I identify a lot with you Spencer. I worked for a Fortune 500 company for more than 12 years and was just a number. I changed jobs and it was the best decision for us as a family. My wife and I are busy with our 5 and 2 year old boys, so there is not too much time for games, we try to play from time to time though. I love your videos and blogs. It is wonderful to see family-friendly content made with love.
    May The Lord bless you both and your family in this new adventure! And remember, the best is yet to come.
    Best regards,
    Bertie

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  4. Robert Tsikretsis

    Loved, loved, loved your videos. I as a board gamer who is married for close to 40 years but to a non gaming spouse, I have had great envy and admiration watching your interaction and joy you showed in your videos. I congratulate you on your desicion. If you ever return to social gaming media I know many will be there for you. God bless you and good luck in your careers. You deserve the best. 👍

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